Millennials are getting married later and later in life. Many millennials are choosing not to get married at all. What is happening? I was asked this question the other day and feel it would be good to write about.
I spoke with several large groups of millennials and posed the question to them. Why do you think millennials are getting married much later in life or not at all? The answer really didn’t surprise me. millennials see divorce happen all around them. Maybe their parents divorced. Maybe their brother or sister got a divorce. Maybe their best friend got a divorce. They have witnessed divorce happening all around them and much of it has been up close and personal. Millennials are afraid!
Millennials have seen the intense pain of divorce and they don’t want “any of that!” They have seen the destruction of finances that divorce brings. They have seen the emotional tearing apart of a family. They have seen the post-divorce fighting that seems to be ongoing. They have seen the destruction to the divorced couple’s self-esteem. They have seen the child support burdens. They have seen so much pain that the entire idea of marriage just seems scary to them.
Why do two people get married in the first place? Think hard about this. What is the one, main, primary motivating emotion? When a couple is happily married a lifetime, what is the reason? What is the target? What is the bullseye? The one thing that when achieved everything else falls nicely into place?
I would submit to you that the reason is because of an emotion. This emotion goes by many names such as romantic love, the feeling of an incredible attraction, the feeling of being “in love”, chemistry, and passion. You see nobody is talking about a divorce, ever, when their “in love.” Nobody! This is the secret. If you get this, you have figured out the repeatable pattern to every great marriage. Since being in love is the reason why people get married in the first place and the reason a couple remains passionately married for a lifetime, doesn’t it make sense that we should seek to know more about this emotion?
Once our clients, in this case millennials, understand that the key to a passionate marriage that lasts a lifetime is creating and sustaining romantic love, then they see hope.
Marriage Partners Ministry has an advice video that will go into some more detail on this for you. We also have a Home DVD Study Course that we would love to get in your hands. In this Home Study Course, you will learn how to create and sustain that intense emotion called romantic love. We have helped thousands of couples and would love to help you also. When millennials understand, what makes a lasting marriage and how to do it then the fear just melts away. Knowledge brings peace! You will know beyond a shadow of a doubt, that you will have an awesome marriage and there will be no divorces.